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Listen to Yourself

For me, the hardest thing was to get myself to do things. It’s a constant battle. You decide you want to recover, but part of you is too afraid, or too scared of change. Or sometimes, part of your doesn’t listen to you anymore for whatever reason.

It’s I think why it’s so hard for us to move along, to change, to get better. We go to people and tell them our problems, because we want someone there to listen, someone to cry on, which I think is a great thing to do. We need support from others to remind ourselves we’re not alone.

Friends listen to us and advise us as best as they could. But the thing is, they will always be outside of the real issue no matter how close you are to them. Why? They don’t know how you really feel, they could not be able to relate with you completely because even if you can describe your pain with the best words, at the end of it, all they can do is listen. You’re the one feeling it most.

But what if you tried to listen to yourself? What if you sat down, and let yourself talk. Sit, and listen to why you’re really sad, why you’re heart is broken, why you’re scared and panicking. One thing I learned was, the best listener there is in the world is yourself.

Why? You know yourself best. You have a responsibility to yourself. It’s your heart, your body, your mind, it’s your job to take care of it. It’s a good thing to ask for help, to seek advice, but it’ll all mean nothing if you don’t do something about it.

The first step to recovery for me, is to re-connect with myself. Even if you don’t understand everything right now, the one thing you at least should know is the pain. Be there for yourself, if that makes sense. When you’re in the heart of your darkness, and you really feel like things won’t get better, remember this:

You are your best friend. We rely a lot on people; our friends, our family, but we seldom rely on ourselves. So when all of a sudden these friends and family disappear, we feel scared because there is nobody there to show you that someone cares. That’s what you need to work on. You need to love yourself, get to know yourself. It’s only you who can tell yourself that you can conquer anything. When you go to sleep at night, when you dream, you’re in your own mind. Your own subconscious. When you talk to yourself, read to yourself, when you argue with yourself sometimes!

You need to be in one with all the voices in your head. You need to love them, change the way they think when necessary, because sometimes, when we don’t have anybody who we can go to, all we really have are ourselves. If you are in one with everything in you, you’ll be surprised that these voices in your mind, your inner fighter, your natural instinct,will be there to defend you and lift you back up when you need it, because you were there for them too.

When we’re in pain, our emotions and thoughts are like wild wolves. And our mind becomes a scary forest with scary wolves you don’t even know anymore. But it’s your forest. You’re the queen or the king. Lead your pack, because really, you’re the alpha bad ass and you can do anything.

Stay safe.

Love,

The Little Novice.

 

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7 thoughts on “Listen to Yourself

  1. This is a beautiful post of personal truths. Sounds like a mix between the sermon of a zen priest and a motivational speaker who has caught a bit of wisdom. 🙂

    “It’s your heart, your body, your mind, it’s your job to take care of it.” – love it – I totally agree!

    I often find myself craving connection with others, especially when feeling a bit lower on the spectrum of emotion. Thing is, I too have found that all the answers I need lie within and reaching out to others actually separates us in some ways.

    I really like what Jack Canfield says in his book “The Success Principles” about complaining, indecision, and inaction:

    “To avoid risking any uncomfortable feelings and experiences, you stay put and complain.
    “As I stated before, complaining means you have a reference point for something better that you would prefer but that you are unwilling to take the risk of creating.
    “Either accept that you are making the choice to stay where you are, take responsibility for your choice, and stop complaining . . . or . . . take the risk of creating your life exactly the way you want it.
    “If you want to get from where you are to where you want to be, of course you’re going to have to take that risk.”

    Jack’s action solution is more straightforward than going within BUT going within to take appropriate action may be more “forwardstraight” if you will… :0)

    What suggestions do you have of good books along the same line as this post?

    Take care!

    -Ben

    BTW, how do you monetize your blog, if at all?

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    1. Thank you! I’m hardly any motivational speaker let alone a priest. I’m just a kid who blogs what she learns to hopefully make someone smile out there. And that seems like an interesting quote from Canfield! He has real good points. It all depends on your pace and how you’d like to take it, so long as you get to your goal in the end and never lose sight of it.

      I haven’t read any books from this particular genre, but I do read ficitonal books and as funny as it sounds, Anime. They have a lot of lessons to teach about this kind of topic.

      And I don’t monetize my blog. 🙂 It’s more of a hobby.

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      1. Hey, c’mon, give yourself some credit. Your posts are absolutely inspirational! You could touch a lot of lives with this stuff.

        Interesting what you mentioned: “so long as you get to your goal in the end and never lose sight of it.” What would you say is your goal? What’s your vision for your life?

        Anime – nice! People often discredit something just b/c of pop culture, ect. Truth is truth no matter what form it comes it. Find your truth and live it!

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  2. I love this! It’s a hard truth to accept I think, that we can only depend on others for so much. At some point, if we want real change we have to start digging deep within. Super scary, but totally worth it.

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    1. Thank you! And I completely agree. The start of it all is always scary, but what matters is you started it, so don’t look back and just pedal forward. 🙂

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